Survivor Voices

When you’re living in survival mode, asking for help can feel impossible. Maybe you’ve already tried and weren’t believed. Perhaps you don’t even have the words for what’s happening yet. Or maybe you’ve been told that asking for help would make things worse. Here’s the truth: you are not overreacting, and you are not alone. There are people—real people—ready to listen, believe you, and help you find your next safe step. Today’s post isn’t a story. It’s a map. A guide to what’

Abuse doesn’t always leave bruises.Sometimes it hides behind apologies, inside jokes, or “that’s just how they are.” It can be quiet, subtle, and hard to name — especially when the world tells you to look for black eyes instead of broken confidence. The truth is, abuse wears many faces.It ’s not just physical. It’s emotional, spiritual, sexual, financial, and psychological. It’s control disguised as care, cruelty dressed up as love. Today, I want to talk about the forms of ab

Healing doesn’t happen on a schedule.There isn’t a finish line or a single “aha” moment when the pain packs its bags and disappears. More often, it’s a series of quiet, ordinary days that slowly begin to look and feel like peace. Some days you’ll feel strong, unstoppable even. You’ll wake up lighter, speak your truth with confidence, and believe—really believe—that the worst parts are behind you.And then, out of nowhere, a smell, a sound, or a tone of voice can pull you right

Brianna is a single mom of two—her daughter is seventeen, her son eleven. She left her abuser, her ex-husband, soon after their son was born. Their relationship began when she was just sixteen and he was twenty-three. “ Sixteen and twenty-three is a huge difference when you’re in high school. But I thought I was just so mature… turns out he was just a bum and nobody his age wanted him. ” Her parents disapproved from the start.“My dad hated him. From the gate. My mom had alrea

I start every interview the same, asking them to tell me about who they are as a person outside of the abuse. April laughs uncomfortably...

When I first spoke with  Mary , she was ready to bare it all. Names, places, dates — nothing held back. But as is often the case with survivors, she later reconsidered. The risk of exposure weighed heavier than the relief of telling. She asked that we use an alias, and that is how I will honor her here. Mary has been in and out of therapy for more than two decades. Her chart now reads like a list she never asked for: depression, PTSD, complex PTSD, fibromyalgia, autoimmune di

Katie is a 30-year-old single mom who made the brave decision to leave her abuser one year ago. When we connected on Zoom, she bounced...

Usually, I’m the one asking the questions. Today, I’m also answering them. I believe it’s only fair that if I’m asking others to share...

Abuse doesn’t always look the way we were taught to see it. Movies and headlines show us bruises, broken bones, or police reports. And...